An Open Letter to Those Who Feel Defeated by Their Mental or Physical Health

Dear Reader,

I want to take a moment to speak directly to you – yes, you, the one who feels overwhelmed, exhausted, and maybe even defeated by your mental or physical health. I know how heavy that burden can be, and how, on some days, it feels like the world is just too much to bear. You’re not alone in this struggle, even though it often feels like a solitary battle.

An amazing person once expressed a truth that resonates deeply: “Living with a chronic illness requires an intricate balance between ignoring your symptoms and listening to your body to survive”. This delicate dance – between pushing through and knowing when to rest – can be incredibly challenging. It’s a constant negotiation with your own body and mind, and the stakes often feel impossibly high.

I also know how frustrating it can be to receive unsolicited advice, no matter how well-intentioned. Whether it’s from loved ones or strangers, it can feel dismissive, even hurtful. You’re told to try this diet, that exercise routine, this new supplement, or that mindfulness practice – as if you haven’t already tried everything under the sun just to feel a little better. But in those moments, as frustrating as it is, we often find ourselves in the position of having to be gracious, nodding politely when all we want to do is scream, “You don’t understand!” It’s unfair, and it sucks, but somehow, we keep going.

I want you to know that it’s okay to feel how you’re feeling. It’s okay to be tired, to be frustrated, and to sometimes feel like giving up. But I also want you to know that your worth isn’t measured by your productivity, your ability to push through the pain, or by how well you manage to hide your struggles. You are enough, just as you are, in all your complexity and vulnerability.

Take a breath. Give yourself grace. Allow yourself to rest when you need to, and don’t feel guilty for doing so. It’s not a sign of weakness to take care of yourself – it’s a necessity. And remember, you don’t have to have it all figured out. You’re doing your best, and that’s more than enough.

If today is a hard day, know that tomorrow is another chance. And if tomorrow is hard too, know that there’s still hope. There is no right or wrong way to navigate this journey, and there’s no timeline you need to follow. Be kind to yourself. You deserve that kindness more than anyone.

With understanding and care,

Me